Monday, November 16, 2009

More Thoughts On The Self-Destructive Direction of Uncontrolled Individual and Cultural Narcissism...

Practicing good ethics is like exercising each day and/ or like eating a good, calory restricted, healthy, nutritional diet...Tough work...but if you keep practising it more and more, day by day, you become much better, much more proficient at living an ethical, well-balanced lifestyle over time -- just like what it takes to get into a good, steady habit of healthy eating and exercising.

In contrast, practising narcissism is like eating a piece of cake, even worse, gorging on the whole cake, or like eating any and every type of junk food we can get our hands on and put into our mouth...It tastes great, it's easy, it satisfies at least a part of our hedonistic-narcissistic (pleasure-seeking) impulses...but there are not too many good vitamins, minerals, proteins, carbohydrates, fats, fiber and enzymes in what we are eating...most of what we are eating has no nutritional value at all and the older we get, the worse this can become as a health problem, especially as our metabolism slows down, usually exasperated by less and less exercise...

This is not to say that all hedonism and/or narcissism is bad -- because it's not -- our survival depends very much on our narcissistic genetics, biochemistry, and psychology. When our body tells us to eat, we need to eat. And similarly, with the other life-preserving impulses in our mind and body that help to keep us alive, both as individuals and as an ongoing species.

Indeed, like many things in life, narcissism becomes a paradox in our lives -- too much narcissism is not a good thing in our lives but so too is not enough narcissism in our lives.

Healthy aspects of narcissism include: self-assertion, self-confidence, self-awareness, self-propelled action...

Indeed, as humans we are probably largely programmed to be narcissistic unless or until we are taught differently -- or better -- to bring this, and keep this, in proper balance and perspective. Even teaching 'altruism' and 'ethics' and 'morals' does not completely, or even closely, eliminate or minimize our underlying narcissistic impulses. But for a 'civilized person and society' these counter-balancing beliefs and values of such things as altruism, social sensitivity, empathy, caring, love, ethics, morals... are essential in order to make our own lives and the lives of the people around us work properly.

Greed, selfishness, manipulation, corruption, fraud, collusion, abuse of power -- these are some of the different things that happen in our personal, social, business, and political lives when self and social narcissism start to slip and slide downhill and out of control....It becomes harder and harder to restore proper ethical, moral, and legal balance, the greater we let self and social narcissism slide down hill and out of control.

Nature injects us with narcissism. It doesn't really 'inject us' with much 'altruism' or 'ethics' or 'morals' -- these are all mainly culturally, religiously, educationally taught beliefs, values, and skills that take great time, energy, effort, and practice to develop. Like running uphill, in contrast to narcissistic self-absorption that requires little effort, energy, self-discipline...like running down hill with gravity as opposed to against gravity.

Living in a culture, an economy, an environment of 'unbridled narcissism' where narcissism -- like a fast, growing weed -- has 'propelled' itself beyond 'healthy civilian, egalitarian, fair and democratic boundaries', and into the area of 'crime, immorality, and corruption' where everyone develops a mindset of 'He's doing it so why can't I?' Or 'The company I work for or my government is being blatantly narcissistic -- using and abusing money unfairly, even corruptly, so therefore I am going to take certain narcissistic counter-measures as a way of compensating for the way that I am being unfairly treated -- these are the types of things that provide greater and greater 'fertilizer' for a larger and larger 'culture of unbridled narcissism'.

Most notably power corrupts -- unless or until there is some faction of society that says 'Enough is enough. This unbridled narcissism has to stop and brought back to more normal, healthy boundaries. If I don't say or do anything about what is happening here, who is? Everyone is passing the buck, remaining ethically passive, and letting their own ethics slip-slide away in the process...'

In Ontario here, we have a Liberal Government that is bringing in a new 'Harmonization Tax'. What a juxtaposition of words -- 'harmonization' and 'tax'. This is from a Liberal Government that has been audited as basically 'mispending millions if not billions of taxpayers money' in the just recently passed 'EHealth Scandal'. There is no Government Accountability here. If the government 'mis-spends' money -- with a lot of Liberal politicians and lobbyists getting 'quietly rich' in the process -- the government just shrugs its shoulders, perhaps offers one politician as a 'sacrifical lamb' (even though I am sure she has already made enough money off of Ehealth to retire for the rest of her life) -- and waits for the scandal to pass. Then they introduce the 'Harmonization Tax'.

As citizens of Ontario, we are far too passive not to mention probably mainly ignorant of the full extent of what this new tax is fully going to mean. We just shrug our shoulders and basically let the politicians get away with 'narcissistic mayhem'. Similarily to what happened on Wall Street. Unbridled and unethical narcissism permeates our culture like the dandelions in my front and back yard a few years ago. It took a lot of digging, over and over and over again, to get rid of most of these weeds. It still didn't get rid of them all.

I can't say that I am any type of 'ethical saint'. How many of us can? But there comes a point where narcissism eventually will destroy all semblence of what it means to be a 'civilized nation'.

Cultural narcissm propogates individual narcissism, and individual narcissism in turn propogates cultural narcissism. The two are 'dialectically entwined'. Without cultural and individual ethics counter-balancing the combined force of cultural and individual narcissism taking us all on a fast or slow roller coaster ride to self-destruction, bad things start to happen like we are seeing in the current recession. As a whole, we are all suffering from the malaise of personal and cultural narcissism destroying the ethical and economic balance in our society. We need more 'win-win' solutions -- not 'me-me', 'I win, you lose' solutions...In the end, we all lose...

One only has to go back and read some of Thomas Jefferson's quotes about how 'power corrupts'...and all of the other Enlightenment Philosophers -- John Locke, Diderot, Voltaire, Tom Paine, Montesquieu...to read how much work and effort has to be continually exercised in order to keep unethical power and narcissism out of government agencies and processes not to mention businesses... to fully understand that we cannot let this type of thing slide without drastic consequences eventually hitting us all...like the collapse of the major financial institutions on Wall Street and their essentially being 'rewarded' afterwards for their ethical and/or legal transgressions at the individual and collective expense of the rest of us, many of us who are fighting for our very economical survival...

Let me close with a few of the quotes that I mean...

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A Bill of Rights is what the people are entitled to against every government, and what no just government should refuse, or rest on inference.
Thomas Jefferson


A wise and frugal government, which shall leave men free to regulate their own pursuits of industry and improvement, and shall not take from the mouth of labor the bread it has earned - this is the sum of good government.
Thomas Jefferson

All tyranny needs to gain a foothold is for people of good conscience to remain silent.
Thomas Jefferson

All, too, will bear in mind this sacred principle, that though the will of the majority is in all cases to prevail, that will to be rightful must be reasonable; that the minority possess their equal rights, which equal law must protect, and to violate would be oppression.
Thomas Jefferson

An association of men who will not quarrel with one another is a thing which has never yet existed, from the greatest confederacy of nations down to a town meeting or a vestry.
Thomas Jefferson

Commerce with all nations, alliance with none, should be our motto.
Thomas Jefferson

Conquest is not in our principles. It is inconsistent with our government.
Thomas Jefferson

Delay is preferable to error.
Thomas Jefferson

Dependence begets subservience and venality, suffocates the germ of virtue, and prepares fit tools for the designs of ambition.
Thomas Jefferson

Do not bite at the bait of pleasure, till you know there is no hook beneath it.
Thomas Jefferson

Do you want to know who you are? Don't ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you.
Thomas Jefferson

Don't talk about what you have done or what you are going to do.
Thomas Jefferson

Educate and inform the whole mass of the people... They are the only sure reliance for the preservation of our liberty.
Thomas Jefferson

Enlighten the people generally, and tyranny and oppressions of body and mind will vanish like evil spirits at the dawn of day.
Thomas Jefferson

Errors of opinion may be tolerated where reason is left free to combat it.
Thomas Jefferson

Every generation needs a new revolution.
Thomas Jefferson

Every government degenerates when trusted to the rulers of the people alone. The people themselves are its only safe depositories.
Thomas Jefferson

Experience demands that man is the only animal which devours his own kind, for I can apply no milder term to the general prey of the rich on the poor.
Thomas Jefferson

Experience hath shewn, that even under the best forms of government those entrusted with power have, in time, and by slow operations, perverted it into tyranny.
Thomas Jefferson

Fix reason firmly in her seat, and call to her tribunal every fact, every opinion. Question with boldness even the existence of a God; because, if there be one, he must more approve of the homage of reason, than that of blindfolded fear.
Thomas Jefferson

For a people who are free, and who mean to remain so, a well-organized and armed militia is their best security.
Thomas Jefferson

Force is the vital principle and immediate parent of despotism.
Thomas Jefferson

Happiness is not being pained in body or troubled in mind.
Thomas Jefferson

He who knows best knows how little he knows.
Thomas Jefferson

He who knows nothing is closer to the truth than he whose mind is filled with falsehoods and errors.
Thomas Jefferson

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-- dgb, Nov. 14th-16th, 2009.

-- David Gordon Bain,

-- Democracy Goes Beyond Narcisism

-- Dialectic Gap-Bridging Negotiations...

-- Are Still in Process....

8 comments:

Nick Pappas said...

Thanks for the many great quotes. (I'm going to tweet one in a minute. I hope I drive some traffic your way.)

What are the analogues to exercise and nutrition in ethics? Acting ethically is likely best compared to exercise. But what is the nutrition of ethics?

Nick Pappas
pappasnick.typepad.com

david gordon bain said...

All three of 'ethics', 'exercise', and 'proper nutrition' require a combination of knowledge, skill, and self-discipline.

There is even a certain amount of 'narcissism' involved in all three of them although a distinction needs to be made between 'short' and 'long' term narcissism.

I might look at a Big Mac (or cream for my coffee or a cheese cake or a pizza) and know that -- 'narcissistically' and 'impulsively' -- I 'want' it; but at 54, I also know that I probably have an issue with 'high cholesterol' and 'compromised circulation'. Here is where I also like to make a Nietzschean distinction between a 'Dionysian choice' and an 'Apollonian choice'. If I opt for the 'short term, Dionysian choice', this is probably not a good 'ethical' choice in terms of my overall well-being and my wish to live for as long as I can. (Ethics can apply to our choices relative to ourselves and our own well-being as well as to ourselves in relation to the overall well-being of others.) The 'Apollonian choice' of opting for something a little healthier would be a more 'ethical, self-disciplined choice' but still, there are going to be certain times when I simply grab that Big Mac and eat it. Similarly, with cream in my coffee (all the time) and that 500 calorie Nanaimo Bar I ate last week...

Keep the feedback coming, Nick...I love it...and anyone else who wants to join in...dave

Nick Pappas said...

I found this interesting:

"Ethics can apply to our choices relative to ourselves and our own well-being as well as to ourselves in relation to the overall well-being of others."

I think this virtue is traditionally called 'prudence'. I think you put your finger on an interesting philosophical development. How to sum up the development, the shift from prudence to ethics? Perhaps we can say that it involves an increased social awareness, that it reflects the socially moral character of taking care of oneself, and the negative consequences to others (near and dear especially) when one does not.

Nick Pappas
pappasnick.typepad.com

david gordon bain said...

Traditionally, we have always thought about ethics involving a heightened sense of 'social awareness, compassion, and an execution (or non-execution) of action' based on this heightened sense of social awareness and compassion.

'Don't do unto others what we would not want them to do unto us.' (Kant ethical rule of 'reciprocity')

The question here becomes: Is it worth expanding this type of definition of 'ethics' to include a heightened sense of 'more wholistic, self-awareness and self-compassion -- and action or non-action based on this principle.

You could even ask the question: Is something like 'submission' or 'masochism' a type of behavior that is 'ethical to ourselves'. And the answer that I would give is -- 'no'.

This type of idea would expand our definition of ethics to include 'self-awareness' and 'self-compassion' without any 'social factors and/or determinants' involved. And I would argue that it takes the idea of 'self-ethics' beyond the point of simply 'prudent self-behavior' (because sometimes being 'submissive' might be prudent -- I lost my last job when I wasn't 'submissive' and 'prudent' in this manner) and takes the idea of 'self-ethics' into a different domain.

It might be prudent to be 'submissive' in some contexts -- particularly if your job is on the line or someone is putting a gun to your head -- but being submissive is never 'ethical' in this type of a context. At the same time, being 'sexually submissive' might be a 'turn-on' for some people in some contexts in which case we perhaps leave the domain of 'ethics' and enter back into the domain of 'hedonistic-narcissism' (excitement towards the dominating person and/or projective-identification with the dominating person, and/or a 'submissive mother or father transference complex'...).

Nick Pappas said...

Submissive prudence is Machiavellian in the sense that it involves justification of the means, submission, for the sake of the end, keeping one's job, etc. I am not certain most Machiavellians see this.

Nick Pappas
pappasnick.typepad.com

david gordon bain said...

Do you see what I mean though about prudence not always being ethical, and ethical not always being prudent?

'Ethical' (and I have not really delved into ethics too much in my writing yet) from a DGB standpoint involves a 'Centralist, Homeostatic-Dialectic-Democratic Balance' position between being solely 'narcissistic' and being solely 'altruistic'...If a person is being 'too altruistic' we are likely to think that they are being 'approval-seeking' or 'wanting to please us' (and in the process not properly protecting his or her own 'self-boundaries') whereas if a person is 'too narcissistic', we are likely to say that he or she 'has no ethics' -- he/she is just plain 'selfish'. 'Egalitarianism', 'democracy', 'homeostatic (or dialectic) balance, and 'fairness' all integrate elements of narcissism with elements of altruism, in effect, 'meeting in the middle'. This is the territory we generally refer to as 'ethics'.

Nick Pappas said...

I am not sure the distinction between prudence and ethics holds. On the one hand, we are saying it is always in our interest to be ethical, much like one might say it is always in one's interest to obey the law. To say that a law is unjust or unfair, and therefore can be broken, implies some higher level of criticism - natural law, etc. The same is true with ethics, unless they are a personal ethics. In that case, I would question whether they were not, ultimately, based on prudence. For instance, peace of mind might dictate certain forms of 'ethical' behavior, just as a desire for advance might dictate, or rationalize, another form.

Nick Pappas
http://pappasnick.typepad.com

david gordon bain said...

Yeah, ethics is going to vary to some extent from person to person. Obviously, we are not always going to act ethically -- personal hedonism and narcissism often dominates personal ethics (unless our system of ethics is built solely on personal hedonism and narcissism which in my opinion it shouldn't be). Nor are we always going to act prudently. I still see a distinction here. If I went into the casino last night and dropped a hundred dollars that I could not afford to drop, then my behavior lacked prudence. If I gambled someone else's money that I was carrying without getting his or her permission, that goes beyond lack of prudence and more strongly into lack of ethics. If I replace the money, then I have 'restored' my ethics. (Which would probably also be prudent if I want to keep the trust and respect and caring of the person who gave me the money.)

We may just have to agree to disagree here...we may have hit an 'impasse-wall'...But the discussion has been great...